Digital Autopilot: Why It’s Not A Good Idea to Just Click “Share”

In the beginning of GF, I pretty much regurgitated links like nobody’s business. I didn’t give too much thought to what I was posting, and it was so easy to just click that damn “Share” button on Facebook. If you don’t give a shit about your page, then, by all means, “Share” away! However, if you do want your page to be better than average, I’d suggest NOT going on digital autopilot. Here’s why…

So much shit comes through our Facebook newsfeeds every second. Some articles might catch your eye with their attention-grabbing headlines. STEER CLEAR OF THESE ARTICLES. I’m thinking of one large community that engages with people this way (Upworthy, I’m looking at you!) Please, just don’t fucking share shit without reading it first. I know, I know, you’re thinking: “But Lachrista, that’s what Facebook was made for!” Sure, if you’re not trying to create and maintain a business/organzation/etc. SHARE THE SHIT OUT OF UPWORTHY. See what I care! (No hate on Upworthy! Actually, some hate, because I can’t stand their goddamn headlines).

I digress…

Your audience can tell whether you’ve read the article you’re posting or whether you haven’t. This can present a problem when someone (inevitably) calls you out: “Why the fuck are you posting this drivel?!” I know, because it has happened to me (I should write one of those xoJane articles, “IT HAPPENED TO ME: I got called out on Facebook, because I was ridiculous and didn’t read the article that I shared.” Probably not catchy enough, but people would PROBABLY share the shit out of it without reading it!) Full fucking circle, my friends.

I suggest reading an article IN ITS ENTIRETY before posting/sharing it. However, if you’re all, “I don’t wanna fuckin’ read” then either a) DON’T POST IT or b) SKIM THE DAMN THING! Most articles these days are written from the perspective of: “People will look at this shit for 5 seconds–10 max–so obvi I won’t write a goddamn novel.” I mean, who knows how many of you reading this article right now have gotten this far! My point is this (in case it was lost on you, because I have a tendency to go on tangents): Don’t post/share links without reading/skimming them first, and if you do, be ready to explain yourself to your audience.

Take pride in what you’re doing. Don’t be on digital autopilot. If you don’t care about your brand/org/etc, then why would you expect others to?

Self-Care for Activists on Social Media

My last post discussed the terribleness of this world; the shit that us activists see/read/hear day in and day out. Because of this, it’s INCREDIBLY important to practice self-care. I’m not going to tell you what you should/shouldn’t do for self-care (that’s YOUR bizness), but I’ll give a brief run down of what I do, and why it’s necessary for me.

1. Ask for help

  • If I didn’t ask for help from others, I would be fucked. Three years ago, when I started GF, it was just me. It was a TON of work. I spent most of my time on the computer. I worried about the page if I left it for 20 minutes (obvi, I have some anxiety). It was NECESSARY for me to ask my friends and other individuals to help me. If your page is large (50 grand large, like GF), you simply MUST have people helping you post, moderate comments, etc!

2. Take a goddamn break

  • I used to not take breaks. Never. Ever. I would be reading articles to potentially post on GF about rape, incest, molestation, etc, and even though I would sometimes feel triggered, I still didn’t take breaks. I don’t think people on GF always understand that us mods actually have to read everything before we post it, (and you should be reading the articles you post, too, before posting!) so… we are CONSTANTLY triggered. There ain’t enough appreciation for this. The only way to ASSURE your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual safety is for YOU to be in charge of it. YOU call the shots. Please take breaks when you need to–especially when feeling triggered. If it helps you feel better about it, maybe even let your page know that you’re taking a self-care break. People should understand. If they don’t, you don’t want their “Likes” anyways!

3. Talk it (or write it) out

  • It helps me to talk shit out with my besties (whether they are part of GF or not). This makes me feel supported, loved, and carefree (as carefree as a bitch with Generalized Anxiety Disorder can be). Maybe even try talking into a tape recorder (do people still use those?) If talking isn’t really your thing, try writing (or typing) about it. Maybe look in the mirror, and pretend you’re confronting whatever it is that is pissing you off, and give it the best side-eye you can muster. Do whatever feels best to you.

4. Watch (too many) “Golden Girls” episodes

  • This should probably be number one on this list, but whatevs. You KNOW Dorothy Zbornak is allergic to bullshit (and you can be, too!)

5. Use coconut oil

  • When all else fails, smother your body in coconut oil, and spritz some rose water on top. You’ll smell (and taste) delicious. Repeat as needed.

“Be Positive!”: The Problem with Forced Positivity in Social Media Posts

If there’s one thing I see over and over again in social media “advice” articles is to “BE POSITIVE.” Only post “positive” links, images, etc. I’m here to tell you why that’s bullshit, and why you should choose to ignore it.

Guerrilla Feminism gets a lot of flack for not posting “positive” things (I mean, A LOT). Positivity is subjective: what one person finds “positive”, another may think it’s not. The idea that you should be posting only positive things on social media is a) inauthentic, and b) impossible.

Here’s the truth: if you’re doing activist work, chances are, you’re not always dealing with the “positive.” It’s inauthentic to act like you are. When you’re fake, people tend to see through this, and may not feel like they can trust you/your page/your organization/etc. To me, being trustworthy is more important than being “positive.”

If you haven’t already admitted this to yourself, now’s a good time to start: THE WORLD IS SHIT. Say that with me, “THE WORLD IS SHIT.” There are a LOT of awful things going on. I’m not trying to be a “Debbie Downer”, but it’s fucking true. The sooner you acknowledge this, the better you’ll do with social media posting.

I’m not saying there aren’t good things happening (there totally are!), but we can’t ignore the bad things. We can’t refuse to acknowledge the shit parts. By posting only “positive” things, you are engaging in bullshit and perpetuating bullshit. This world could stand to see a little less bullshit.

My advice? (Like I haven’t shared it already)… BE AUTHENTIC. Don’t strive for this bizarre idea of forced positivity. Your audience can sniff that out like the dog shit it is.

The Architecture of Online 'Safe Spaces'

What is a "safe space"? According to Geek Feminism Wiki, a safe space is: area or forum where either a marginalised group are not supposed to face standard mainstream stereotypes and marginalisation, or in which a shared political or social viewpoint is required to participate in the space. For example, a feminist safe space would not allow free expression of anti-feminist viewpoints, and would typically also prevent concern trolling and continual Feminism 101 discussions in favour of feminist discussion among feminists. Safe spaces may require trigger warnings and restrict content that might hurt people who have strong reactions to depictions of abuse or harm or mental illness triggers.

How do we build safe spaces online? Is there such a thing as an online safe space? If this potential online space is safe, who is is safe for? And from whom?

With my baby, Guerrilla Feminism, I've attempted to construct an online safe space. This digital space is supposed to be safe(r) for marginalized folk. Is it perfect? Hell no--but I have heard it's a better space than most. 

Part of building and sustaining a digital safe space is immediacy. For example, if a troll comments on the GF page with a bigoted remark, etc, either myself or another GF mod must immediately (or as soon as possible) remove this comment and ban said person. Ideally, the comment is removed before too many community members see it, thus, lowering rates of trigger-dom. It's not always possible for this immediacy to occur, but it's typically what GF is known for doing well. 

Though GF is considered a "safe space" by many community members, it is, unfortunately, not always a safe space for myself or other mods. Since our ability to sustain this digital safe space is dependent on our moderating of posts, we are often forced to deal with extremely triggering comments. We are typically the first (sometimes only) people to see these comments, and it's our job to remove them. You know that saying, "Never read the comments"? Well, we have to ALWAYS read the comments. 

Now, I have many privileges, so there are not too many things that get posted that end up triggering me (unless it has to do with rape, sexism, misogyny, and a few others). So, if I am the first person to see a racist, homoantagonist, transantagonist, ableist comment, I want to be able to remove this before another mod who does not have the privileges I have sees it, and thus, might get triggered by it. I have white, straight, cis, able-bodied privilege--the least I can do is use these privileges for good. In essence, my privileges have afforded me the ability to create an online safe space.

The unfortunate thing about digital spaces is that it is quite easy for pages/forums/etc to say they are "safe", but not really be safe. For example, there are several feminist pages on Facebook that claim safety and inclusivity, when their moderation is sub-par or nonexistent.

There is also this double question of, "Who is this safe space safe for? And who is it safe from?" In GF's case, the space is supposed to be safe for marginalized folk--folks who experience oppression on a daily basis--who experience oppression merely for existing. And to answer the second part of that question... GF is supposed to be safe from bigoted, hateful, oppressive folk, who would like nothing more than a world of white, rich, cishet, able-bodied, neurotypical people. 

We don't want that shit at GF. 

I do my best at continuing and sustaining GF as a safe space. I am not perfect at it. I don't think it will ever be perfect, but I think it's pretty damn close. 


Autumnal Hymns: A 2014 Fall Playlist

I love Autumn. It's my 2nd favorite season after Winter. The leaves are wet and crunchy. Everything smells fresh. Apple cider is plentiful and pumpkin-flavored things are everywhere. Have yourself a listen to my "Autumnal Hymns" playlist, breathe in this beautiful season!