New Year 2015

Here is my obligatory New Year post! Happy New Year, dear readers!

I'm not one for New Year's Resolutions--they honestly just give me anxiety, because they never really stick, and when they do, they don't stick forever. Anyways... there are things I'd like to do more of, so that's what this list will be. A "Do More Of These Things Because I Like Them And They Make Me Feel Good" list. Please enjoy--and tell me what's on your "Do More Of These Things Because I Like Them And They Make Me Feel Good" in the comments!

1. Write more (especially poetry)
I used to write so much poetry. I have journals upon journals of poetry (probably shitty poetry, but poetry nonetheless). I would also like to write more blog posts. The only thing that really stops me from writing is my internal thinking that says: "Who cares what you have to say about anything!?" I'd like to silence that voice.

2. Publish my 2nd book of poetry
I plan to publish my 2nd book of poetry (published my first during my senior year of high school through a small press in Middleton, WI). I plan to self-publish this through Lulu

3. Practice yoga more
I'm an E-RYT, but it has proven difficult finding a "yoga home" here in Madison. I miss my yoga home in Chicago so much--still. Madison doesn't have much to offer (for me, anyways) in the way of yoga. I like 5 teachers and most of them teach when I can't make it! So, I'm either going to have to suck it up and go to whatever classes I can, or I'll need to be way more diligent about having a home practice. Either way, this has to happen, because yoga does amazing things for my mind and body. 

4. Take more walks
I love being outside (especially in winter--don't judge), and I'd like to take many more walks this season. 

5. Do no harm, but take no shit
Speaks for itself.

6. If a man makes me feel anything less than amazing, never speak to him again
Again, speaks for itself.

7. Do more for GF.
Figure out where I want to go with this thing. Nonprofit? Etc...

8. Take more pauses
I can be very reactive--I AM very reactive. This isn't always a good thing. I'd like to be able to take more pauses--stop rushing through life because of discomfort. I'd like to be able to have more compassion for this, my "one wild and precious life." 

9. Continue to be myself fiercely, and allow others to be themselves fiercely, too.
This can be hard with family members, etc... especially when I've thought, "Well, why can't this person be more like this and less like this?" I'd like to stop questioning. 

10. Trust my gut(s)
Because what else/who else could possibly know me best? :)

29 & Alive!

"'Cause it's my birthday/And I wanna get fucked like it's the first time/Like it's the first time"

Today is my birthday. The last year of my 20's. Every birthday, I'm reminded of the beautiful short story, "Eleven" by Sandra Cisneros: 

What they don't understand about birthdays and what they never tell you is that when you're eleven, you're also ten, and nine, and eight, and seven, and six, and five, and four, and three, and two, and one.

So, on this day, the 29th year of my existence, I remember that I am not only 29, but also: 28, 27, 26, 25, 24, 23, 22, 21, 20, 19, 18, 17, 16, 15, 14, 13, 12, 11, 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, and 1. I've had this same heart since birth. It's a good one. 

Taking a page from Rebel Grrrl Living, I've made a list of 29 things that make me happy. Enjoy!

from clockwise: momma and I; dad and I; my brother, mom, and I; the whole fam; brother and I; and besties Anju, Kelly, and I

from clockwise: momma and I; dad and I; my brother, mom, and I; the whole fam; brother and I; and besties Anju, Kelly, and I

1. friends & family
I have the most amazing parents ever, a brother who is goddamn inspiring, and friends who support and believe in me (even when I don't believe in myself). 

2. job
I'm so lucky to work with such incredible people, both at my unpaid and paid jobs!

mermaid pose

mermaid pose

3. heart
It's the same heart I've had since I was born... it's a loyal heart. It's a heart that loves fiercely and fearlessly. I'm consistently amazed at how much my heart can take in, and keep beating so strongly.

4. yoga
I started yoga in college after I had quit dance (ballet and jazz). It has saved me on many occasions. I only wish I could find a goddamn studio here in Madison that doesn't suck :/

5. guerrilla feminism
My passion. My heart. My everything. GF is an extension of me, but it's also way more than me--and that feels amazing. I'm so happy to see how it has progressed. I'm indebted to all of you who have helped me a long the way--who have taken your time to volunteer for this little idea I had back in 2011. Thank you <3

6. grrrl music
Grrrl singers are my absolute fave. Everyone from Erykah Badu to Kathleen Hanna to FKA Twigs and more. I feel such a kinship with these women through their music.

7. poetry by: nayyirah waheed, shinji moon, warsan shire, yrsa daley-wardcaitlyn siehl, and rupi kaur.
If you haven't heard of any of these women, do yourself a huge favor and check them out NOW! For any heart healing, read these poets. 

from clockwise: Great-Great nonna Giuseppina, mormor Elvira, Great nonna Rosaria (with her mother Giuseppina), and another photo of Great nonna Rosaria

from clockwise: Great-Great nonna Giuseppina, mormor Elvira, Great nonna Rosaria (with her mother Giuseppina), and another photo of Great nonna Rosaria

8. my ancestors
I come from strong, witchy Calabrese women--and a Danish woman. 

9. my bestie of 10+ years, Anju.
The longest friendship I've had--and one of the best. Anju has been with me through it all. We met in ballet class as youngins. She just called, sang some "Happy Birthday" to me, and then said, "I'm glad you're in this world." *ugly crying*

10. winter
Yes, you read that right. I'm a winter baby, and it's in my blood to love all things winter. Snow is my favorite. It's so magical and beautiful and all of the things!

11. italianità
My Italian-ness is very important to me. I grew up speaking Italian with my Nonno (who recently--last June--passed away). I studied abroad in Italy in 2006, and am certain I will be back there someday. It's in my bones.

12. the Olive Grrrls anthology
I had the idea for this in 2010, but only published it a year ago. The writers in this book are amazing! Please support women writers, and read this!!!!

Stela art!

Stela art!

13. art by Stela Starchild
I've been lucky enough to also start a friendship with this rad artist. Stela Starchild's work gives me life!

14. my curls
I spent most of my youth hating my hair, and wishing for straight hair. In college, I finally grew into it. I finally started liking it. Then, I started loving it. My hair is fucking rad, ya'll.

15. ukulele
I've been playing the beautiful instrument for a while now, and I wouldn't say I'm great at it, but I don't really care, because it's FUN. 

16. online feminist community(ies)
I'm lucky to know so many truly special souls--and a lot of these folx I've met online because of GF. My dream is to visit them all some day! It WILL happen, daminit!

17. my bestie, Kelly.
This bitch is fucking fabulous. She is my soul seastar. She's a beautiful person and incredibly loyal. She called me a "beautiful tropical fish" today <3

18. places I feel safe
As an anxious person, these are few and far between, but they still exist--which is something I'm so thankful for. My momma's house, my dad's house, my work, my friend's apartments, and local bookstores/coffee shops :)

Positano, Italia - 2006

Positano, Italia - 2006

19. places I feel at home
Madison, Italy, and maybe even Boston a tad

20. therapy
In all forms--yoga, my actual therapist, napping, meditating, bedroom dancing, singing, writing...

21. hardships
This past year has been really terrible--in a variety of ways. I'm thankful for it all though. I've learned a lot about myself. I've learned how goddamn resilient I am. How resilient my heart is. How the only person who can truly abandon me is me--and that will never happen.

22. makeup
I spend way too much at Sephora, but damn... I just really love makeup. I especially love liquid eyeliner--the blacker the better!

23. my body
I've gone through eating disorders, disordered eating, etc, etc, and I feel like I'm finally at a place where I can actually say I love my body and I'm thankful for what it can do for me. I'm thankful for its abilities. I'm thankful for its beauty. 

mamma's spiced tea

mamma's spiced tea

24. mamma's spiced tea
She has been making this for a long time, and it is so delicious and healing <3

25. social media
Seriously though. There's a lot to complain about, but overall, it's something I'm very thankful for.

26. nail polish
Painting my nails feels very therapeutic. I own too much nail polish, but whatever.

27. dancing
I love dancing (and I'm pretty good at it, too). 

28. the moon
Luna, oh luna. I love your phases.

29. the souls I have not yet met and the hearts I have not yet loved.
I'm excited about my future. I hope I have a very long one ahead of me :)

29 Songs of Popularity From 1985 to 2014

So... I'm on a playlist kick. Enjoy these 29 songs that have been popular throughout each year of my life--from 1985 to 2014 <3

28--A Year In Review

My 29th birthday is quickly approaching, so I thought I would take a look back on my 28th year--through the format of a playlist. Enjoy :)

1. "Drunk in Love" - Beyoncé, ft. Jay-Z

. "Runnin'" - Kelis

3. "Mouthful of Diamonds" - Phantogram

4. "Bed Of Lies" - Nicki Minaj, ft. Skylar Grey

5. "I'm Out" - Ciara, ft. Nicki Minaj

6. "Conceited" - Remy Ma

7. "Begging For A Thread" - Banks

8. "Coffee" - Sylvan Esso

9. "Best Thing I never Had" - Beyoncé 

10. "Let 'Em Say" - Lizzo & Caroline Smith

3 Songs Giving Me Life

I can't stop (won't stop) listening to these songs:


Nicki Minaj (Ft. Skylar Grey) - "Bed of Lies"

Do you ever think of me when you lie?
Lie down in your bed, your bed of lies.
And I knew better than to look in your eyes,
They only pretend you will be mine.
And you know how you made me believe?
You had me caught in every web that you weaved.
Do you ever think of me when you lie?
Lie down in your bed, your bed of lies.


Lorde - "Yellow Flicker Beat"

And now people talk to me,
I'm slipping out of reach,
People talk to me,
And all their faces blur.
But I got my fingers laced together,
And I made a little prison,
And I'm locking up everyone
who ever laid a finger on me.


Mary J. Blige - Therapy

Why would I spend the rest of my days unhappy?
Why would I spend the rest of this year alone?
When I can go therapy
When I can go therapy
When I can go therapy
Two times a day.