On Ferguson, #BlackLivesMatter, & Injustice

via Nayyirah Waheed's instagram: @nayyirah.waheed

via Nayyirah Waheed's instagram: @nayyirah.waheed

Instead of me writing something that just adds to the rest of white people discussing the fucked-up-ness of Ferguson, MO and Darren Wilson dealing with ZERO charges, I'm going to link to all of the amazing pieces I've been reading written by black people themselves: 

The Ins and Outs of the Civil Lawsuit That Could 'Indict' Darren Wilson and Ferguson Police
-Diana Ozemebhoya Eromosele, The Root

If You're White and Want To Be an Ally To The Black Community in the Aftermath of Ferguson
-Phoenix, GF Chicago

I am utterly undone: My struggle with black rage and fear after Ferguson
-Brittney Cooper, Salon

We Rage
-Crunkadelic, Crunk Feminist Collective

Ferguson National Response Network

 

And follow these rad people on Twitter:

 

 

 

 

 

 

  1. Trudy of Gradient Lair
  2. Mikki Kendall
  3. Feminista Jones
  4. Not A White Man™
  5. Unfriendly Blk Hot T
  6. Phoenix
  7. Brittney Cooper
  8. Zerlina Maxwell
  9. Janet Mock
  10. Nayyirah Waheed

Burn Your Idols (Especially If I'm Your Idol)

by Ryan Heshka

by Ryan Heshka

I have a big problem with people who tell me: "Whether you like it or not, you are held to a higher standard because you created Guerrilla Feminism." That's like all those asshole parents who yell at mainstream celebrities for not being better "role models" for their children. And fuck that noise. 

If people want to hold me to a "higher standard", that is their choice. However, they will be disappointed when I inevitably fall from the pedestal they've put me on. #burnyouridolsespeciallyifimyouridol

I think it's really unfair to put such immense pressure on a person. I do not live my life for you. I am not in this life for you. Most days, I am barely able to live my life for me. I have intense anxiety, trauma, BDD, PMDD, etc etc. I'm stilling figuring out my own shit.

I'm hypersensitive, and even though I am fairly desensitized in a lot of ways (not necessarily a good thing), I still cry when people say mean things about me. I still worry about being liked. I still analyze shit like it's going out of style. I am not above anyone (and I've never presented myself as such either). 

I cannot be your hero/shero/queen/goddess/etc. Or if I can... I can't be your perfect version of me. "Perfect" doesn't exist, and I am not going to exhaust my energy in something that isn't even attainable. 

It has taken me a long time to love myself. Please understand that I cannot jeopardize this. 

In Moderation: Why Moderating Your Page is Damn Important

Joan of Arc ready to moderate comments like a badass!

Joan of Arc ready to moderate comments like a badass!

Cute title, right? Except, in this case, you don’t want to moderate your page in moderation. You want to have your whole beautiful self up on that shit–especially if you have a large audience.

In the beginning of a page, moderation may not be needed. This is not to say that you can “set it, and forget it” (your page, that is), but when you have less of an audience, obviously you will have less discussion, and thus, less need for moderating comments.

I would say that moderating is the most time consuming and difficult part of running a page. As feminists, we’re told, “Do not read the comments!” because they are generally awful everywhere. These awful, hurtful, ridiculous comments can happen right on  your own page. And YOU have to read that shit. You can’t skip through them, and pretend they don’t exist. You have to take care of that shit ASAP. If you don’t, your audience will question your integrity and your commitment.

Moderating comments is not all bad. If you’re lucky, you’ll have some really great, amazing, insightful people on your page sharing their thoughts with you and others. I’ve learned SO much from the people who comment on GF. Since Day 1, and now 3 years later, I still learn a lot from others’ comments.

I’ve heard from various GF commenters that they’ve left other pages, because the admins were not aggressive when it came to moderating. I’ve seen it myself, too. I’ll be perusing a page, and I’ll see some really horrible comment (generally with even more horrible comments attached), and hours, or even days have gone by, and the admins of the page haven’t removed or warned said culprits. This avoidance tells your audience that you don’t give a shit. It’s one thing to (obviously) have a life, and thus have other responsibilities offline to take care of, however, you have to deal with this in a timely matter (or have a fellow admin do it), otherwise, watch your page sink.

Also of note: the more you comment and engage with your commenters, the more your posts are seen around Facebook (due to Facebook’s algorithm). So when you think of moderating–it’s not just about keeping an eye out for what’s happening in discussion threads–it’s about how YOU are interacting with your audience.

So dears, go forth and read the comments! Because, well, you kind of have to…

Don’t moderate in moderation!

Digital Autopilot: Why It’s Not A Good Idea to Just Click “Share”

In the beginning of GF, I pretty much regurgitated links like nobody’s business. I didn’t give too much thought to what I was posting, and it was so easy to just click that damn “Share” button on Facebook. If you don’t give a shit about your page, then, by all means, “Share” away! However, if you do want your page to be better than average, I’d suggest NOT going on digital autopilot. Here’s why…

So much shit comes through our Facebook newsfeeds every second. Some articles might catch your eye with their attention-grabbing headlines. STEER CLEAR OF THESE ARTICLES. I’m thinking of one large community that engages with people this way (Upworthy, I’m looking at you!) Please, just don’t fucking share shit without reading it first. I know, I know, you’re thinking: “But Lachrista, that’s what Facebook was made for!” Sure, if you’re not trying to create and maintain a business/organzation/etc. SHARE THE SHIT OUT OF UPWORTHY. See what I care! (No hate on Upworthy! Actually, some hate, because I can’t stand their goddamn headlines).

I digress…

Your audience can tell whether you’ve read the article you’re posting or whether you haven’t. This can present a problem when someone (inevitably) calls you out: “Why the fuck are you posting this drivel?!” I know, because it has happened to me (I should write one of those xoJane articles, “IT HAPPENED TO ME: I got called out on Facebook, because I was ridiculous and didn’t read the article that I shared.” Probably not catchy enough, but people would PROBABLY share the shit out of it without reading it!) Full fucking circle, my friends.

I suggest reading an article IN ITS ENTIRETY before posting/sharing it. However, if you’re all, “I don’t wanna fuckin’ read” then either a) DON’T POST IT or b) SKIM THE DAMN THING! Most articles these days are written from the perspective of: “People will look at this shit for 5 seconds–10 max–so obvi I won’t write a goddamn novel.” I mean, who knows how many of you reading this article right now have gotten this far! My point is this (in case it was lost on you, because I have a tendency to go on tangents): Don’t post/share links without reading/skimming them first, and if you do, be ready to explain yourself to your audience.

Take pride in what you’re doing. Don’t be on digital autopilot. If you don’t care about your brand/org/etc, then why would you expect others to?

Self-Care for Activists on Social Media

My last post discussed the terribleness of this world; the shit that us activists see/read/hear day in and day out. Because of this, it’s INCREDIBLY important to practice self-care. I’m not going to tell you what you should/shouldn’t do for self-care (that’s YOUR bizness), but I’ll give a brief run down of what I do, and why it’s necessary for me.

1. Ask for help

  • If I didn’t ask for help from others, I would be fucked. Three years ago, when I started GF, it was just me. It was a TON of work. I spent most of my time on the computer. I worried about the page if I left it for 20 minutes (obvi, I have some anxiety). It was NECESSARY for me to ask my friends and other individuals to help me. If your page is large (50 grand large, like GF), you simply MUST have people helping you post, moderate comments, etc!

2. Take a goddamn break

  • I used to not take breaks. Never. Ever. I would be reading articles to potentially post on GF about rape, incest, molestation, etc, and even though I would sometimes feel triggered, I still didn’t take breaks. I don’t think people on GF always understand that us mods actually have to read everything before we post it, (and you should be reading the articles you post, too, before posting!) so… we are CONSTANTLY triggered. There ain’t enough appreciation for this. The only way to ASSURE your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual safety is for YOU to be in charge of it. YOU call the shots. Please take breaks when you need to–especially when feeling triggered. If it helps you feel better about it, maybe even let your page know that you’re taking a self-care break. People should understand. If they don’t, you don’t want their “Likes” anyways!

3. Talk it (or write it) out

  • It helps me to talk shit out with my besties (whether they are part of GF or not). This makes me feel supported, loved, and carefree (as carefree as a bitch with Generalized Anxiety Disorder can be). Maybe even try talking into a tape recorder (do people still use those?) If talking isn’t really your thing, try writing (or typing) about it. Maybe look in the mirror, and pretend you’re confronting whatever it is that is pissing you off, and give it the best side-eye you can muster. Do whatever feels best to you.

4. Watch (too many) “Golden Girls” episodes

  • This should probably be number one on this list, but whatevs. You KNOW Dorothy Zbornak is allergic to bullshit (and you can be, too!)

5. Use coconut oil

  • When all else fails, smother your body in coconut oil, and spritz some rose water on top. You’ll smell (and taste) delicious. Repeat as needed.